You will be dissatisfied if you are consumed by negative assumptions or beliefs. On the other side, if you maintain a good attitude (even in the face of adversity), you will be content. In the end, perception determines reality, therefore changing the way you view your life can make a significant difference.
But how can you tell whether your mindset is incorrect?
It’s difficult to distinguish whether the bad thoughts are coming from the outside or inside your head. Part of the issue with having a negative mindset is that it blurs your judgment.
Thankfully, there are several warning signs that indicate when it’s time to modify your thoughts and mindset.
Today, you have the chance to shift from a powerless state of existence to a powerful state of a purpose-driven life. Today is a new day that you have been given to mold. Now that you have the necessary tools, go forth and make a masterpiece.
The Power of One, by Steve Maraboli
At the heart of this quote, you’ll discover that regardless of what’s going on in your life right now, how you perceive it determines whether you’re happy or sad.
Here are 9 signals that it’s time to shift your perspective…
1. You Lament Your Shortcomings While Forgetting To Rejoice In Your Wins.
The problems and struggles of today are merely the cost of tomorrow’s triumphs and victories.
Motivational Speaker William J. H. Boetcker
This is connected to the previous indication. Do you find yourself becoming enraged and dejected after a loss while ignoring your victories?
When you don’t take the time to rejoice when things go your way, it’s because you don’t believe in your own win, whether consciously or subconsciously. You feel the seeds of failure are hidden beneath it. You’re always sending yourself a bad message if you do this. You feel that you will constantly fail and that you cannot rejoice in successes because they are all merely disguised future failures.
This is a terrible way to spend your life because you not only miss out on all of life’s wonderful, beautiful moments, but you also spit on life and your own cleverness, luck, and accomplishments.
You might respond, “But I don’t want to take anything for granted.” That is admirable, but there is a third path, which is gratitude. Remember that continuously doubting your victories is just as ungrateful as taking them for granted, because it isn’t a genuine acknowledgment.
Believe in your ability to achieve true victory. Some things do endure three years.
2. You have a Negative Focus And Are Continuously Focusing On What Is Wrong.
Do you have a habit of focusing on your worries and disappointments while ignoring the things that are going well for you? This is a solid sign that your thoughts are tainted by negativity. Even if there are a lot of unpleasant things going on in your life right now, chances are that at least some areas of it are in decent shape.
Taking the time to be grateful for such good is vital because it keeps the negative from taking over your perspective. If you lose sight of the good things, you may lose them or fail to make use of them.
3. You Become Enraged When Your Expectations Aren’t Realised.
Another red flag is raised as a result of this. If you’re frequently disappointed by how the world, people in your life, or even yourself fail to meet your expectations, it’s likely that your expectations were unrealistic, to begin with.
Our thinking is heavily influenced by our expectations. They are our ideas about what is feasible or essential.
Our experiences are built on the foundation of our expectations. Nothing ever fulfils us if we have overly high expectations.
For example, if you set out after college hoping to be a billionaire by the age of 30, and by the age of 25, you are nowhere near that goal, you are likely to be unhappy. But are you truly unhappy because you aren’t a millionaire or haven’t accomplished what you intended to by that age?
It all boils down to perceiving the world for what it is. Maybe you’re gifted and ambitious, and in an ideal world, you’d already have made your first million. But we don’t live in a perfect world, and no amount of talent or drive can make up for the fact that you can’t control everything. That is why, in order to survive and thrive in such a world, we must change our mentality.
4. You Think About Yourself As a Sufferer.
The issue with seeing yourself as a victim stems from the fact that it isn’t always accurate—you may have been harmed by horrible people or unlucky circumstances.
Constantly seeing oneself as a victim, on the other hand, does not empower you to change or create a better life for yourself. Even though you were the victim, you can overcome low self-esteem by deciding to reject that position and begin constructing something new. You’ve earned it!
5. You Cling To Other People’s Dramas At Work.
Sometimes the negative mindsets we struggle with are more a reflection of the messages we’ve received throughout our lives than of ourselves. Maybe your parents encouraged you not to pursue your dreams, or maybe you had a bad relationship in the past that made you feel like you were never good enough.
If the dramas in your head sound familiar and you hear voices that aren’t your own, it’s time to let them go. Those dramas are the result of other people’s judgments and views, not yours.
It’s not easy to alter your thinking, yet it’s one of the most effective things you can do. The first step is to learn how to spot a negative thinking. You’ll be able to make those changes and start looking for the good in your life once you’ve done so. Doing so can frequently turn your life around!
6. Everything That You Have (or don’t have) Makes You Sad And Dissatisfied.
The disadvantage of ambition is that it frequently blinds us to the good things and people in our lives. Maybe you desire a bigger house or a more costly automobile, but remember when you didn’t even have your current house or car?
Perhaps you wish you had more friends while overlooking the worth of the ones you already have. There is always something more to aspire for, yet more can never completely satisfy us. It always leaves a gap that can’t be filled.
You’ll never be satisfied with what you have until you give yourself permission to enjoy it. In order to accept it. Enjoy it. This is an excellent opportunity to do so.
7. You Routinely Gotten Into a Fight With The Person You Care About Love-care.
If you find yourself continuously disagreeing with the people you care about, it’s a sign that your perspective needs to be adjusted, especially if you trust them and value their opinions. It’s possible that your disagreements with them reflect more on you than on them. Try to understand where they’re coming from; it might help you change your perspective.
8. You Focus On What You “Have to” Do Rather Than What You “Get to” Accomplish At Work.
When everything becomes an annoyance rather than a welcome opportunity, it usually indicates that you are no longer enjoying what you have.
When you’re exhausted, it’s tempting to say, “I have to do all this work,” but you get to do all that work. This is not the case for everyone!
Work keeps you alive by feeding you and allowing you to access the joyful aspects of your life. So, even though it’s difficult, remember to appreciate your job!
9. You Don’t Want To Confront The Truth, So Don’t.
Complaining about reality will not make it go away. You can rant about the rain clouds all day long, but it won’t make the sun come out. It is beneficial to have a feeling of fairness and an understanding of how things should be.
Constant whining, on the other hand, is a failure to admit and accept the facts. Some things are simply beyond your control. You don’t have complete control over anything.
And there is no worse error than refusing to perceive the world for what it is because, at that point, it is impossible to distinguish fact from fantasy. Take steps to improve the things you can. When you observe an injustice, speak up, but recognize that the world will never be fair, no matter how much it should be. It will never be real unless you embrace that truth and adjust your thinking, and you will be tortured with resentment that your expectations are not being realized.