It can be difficult to admit you’re sorry to people (and to yourself) when you’ve done something wrong.
That’s when the excuses come in. Because you’re afraid to admit your flaws and inadequacies, you create excuses or lie instead of apologizing or saying I’m sorry.
Excuses, on the other hand, are poisonous to yourself and those you love.
The discomfort felt by someone who believes two or more contradictory views, thoughts, or values at the same time is referred to as “cognitive dissonance.” You are not only failing to admit your errors when you make excuses, but you are also producing new faults by making excuses about them.
It’s time to break the loop and proclaim “no more excuses.” Here are six justifications that aren’t valid.
1. You’re Overworked
Busy
If there’s one thing most people learn in their early twenties, it’s that time is a luxury, perhaps the most luxurious of them.
Unfortunately, most people waste their time. Learning how to avoid procrastination, which may bring hours, days, or even weeks back into your life, is one way to save time.
Learn how to overcome procrastination and identify other portions of your routine that could be eliminated or reduced.
Identify the items and people in your life that you desire or need, and then get rid of the rest.
You’re probably squandering your time if you’re not productive or relaxing. Many of us, for example, are guilty of wasting or at least wasting too much time, on our phones.
Try this: while you swipe through your phone’s apps, ask yourself these two questions. Is there any direct gratification you’re getting from the app, whether it’s a game or a social networking platform you’re using? Is the app assisting you in some manner with your personal development?
If you can’t respond yes to either of these questions, erase it from your phone right away.
It’s that easy to save time. It’s also quite simple to apply this example from your phone to real life. There are no excuses forever saying you’re too busy if you utilize this advice to de-clutter your life.
So, learn to manage your time effectively and to mix productivity with enough relaxing activities to keep you productive for the remainder of the day. You’ll be surprised at how far you can travel.
2. You’ve Just Been Abandoned
While one may face numerous defeats, one must not succumb to defeat.
Maya Angelou is a poet, author, and activist.
Many people accept failure before they even begin a project because they have been persuaded by pressures that even starting is a losing endeavor.
It’s normal for pessimists to compare themselves to the most successful persons in their chosen fields right away. They then tell themselves that they will never achieve that degree of success. And it’s possible that’s correct.
Not every free throw shooter will go on to become the next Michael Jordan. Furthermore, an “A” in science class does not imply that you will win the Nobel Prize in Physics. However, if you can’t get past your own anxieties, your chances of reaching your goals are greatly reduced, and there are no excuses for being defeated by one’s own insecurity.
Consider the following scenario.
It would be pointless to count the steps from base camp to the summit of Mount Everest. By the same rationale, you shouldn’t operate as though there are only two rungs on a ladder to success. Make reasonable, attainable goals for yourself so you may feel satisfied along the undoubtedly lengthy road from amateur to champion.
Few people can go from zero to hero in under sixty seconds. The voyage, on the other hand, is for the purpose of rising. Set tiny goals for yourself on your path to success so you can enjoy a series of little victories over time. These triumphs are just as wonderful in the end.
3. You Can’t Take It Any Longer
“Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it,” Joe Louis Clark, the subject of the moving 1989 film Lean on Me, says. He is absolutely correct.
Anyone concerned that failure would be too traumatic for them fails to appreciate the human spirit’s resilience and ability to cope with catastrophes far worse than failing at something. So you don’t give up too soon on something, believe in yourself and your tenacity.
4. You Aren’t an Excellent Enough Person
Enough is Enough
Too many people assume they don’t “have what it takes” right away. They feel left in the dust as they watch other, perhaps more naturally endowed individuals advance through the ranks faster than they can. They could, in fact, be the tortoise who catches up to the hare.
People with a lot of inherent talent, according to legend, prefer to rest on their laurels. Those who do not begin at the top must work harder and climb faster to achieve the summit.
Treat the fact that you don’t yet have the same degree of ability as your competition as a blessing. You’re only a few steps away from earning your seat rather than having it handed to you.
5. You Must Wait For The Appropriate Opportunity
If you keep waiting for the appropriate moment, the chance you’ve been waiting for will eventually pass you by. You won’t realize it because you never placed yourself in the situation to have that life-changing experience.
And, in the end, it’s not how many years you’ve lived that matters. It’s your life in years.
Abraham Lincoln was the 16th president of the United States
There are no justifications for allowing your life to slip you by.
It’s not good enough to just go through the motions. You must discover your passion and put it into action as soon as possible. The first and most important step in any adventure is to get up and going.
6. You’re not going to be able to do it
The most basic and harmful excuse you can make to yourself and others is that achieving your goal is absolutely beyond your control. You’re doomed if you believe it.
There are no justifications for focusing on your strengths instead of your flaws. Instead of being ashamed of your mistakes, take pleasure in your triumphs.
Accepting that something is beyond your control is one of the only ways it can be.
It’s past time to put an end to justifications. Remove all the reasons why you can’t do something and replace them with a list of why you can.